I wanted to talk all about the struggles of finding some "balance" in motherhood, it's always a tough thing to accomplish, trying to get this motherhood thing down and still be "you" at the same time. After watching this great video on youtube all about this lifestyle called "How to hygge (which is pronounced "Hoo-gah") all about comfort living, there must be something to this danish style of living because it's said that they're the most happy people on this planet. So onto lots of research and some amazon orders later, I've found some really great books that I've wanted to share.
1. How to Hygge
2. The little book of Hygge
3. The danish way of parenting (my fave)
4. How to hygge (the secrets of Nordic living)
5. The cozy life
P.S. If you go on amazon now, you an bundle buy these books and get a great deal
Now this "hygge" lifestyle is pretty straightforward, putting your mobile devices down, staying away from technology and spending more time together as a family. It's all about that putting on your comfy clothes when you get home, snuggling with one another, talking to eachother about your day. Bringing out those dusty board games that you never touch and have a family game night. It really brings to light of how much technology has taken over our lives, we as parents are consumed by documenting the moment , taking that picture or recording that adorable moment instead of really being present in that moment. LIke this quote I shared on my instagram account "The attitude that you have as a parent is what your kids will learn from, more than what you tell them. They don't remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are." Just like this quote, being present instead of being on your phone to record those moments instead of really being in the moment, your kids will remember that you were on your phone not really experiencing the moment with them. So why not put that phone down and just "be".
Now I'm not saying your a bad "momma" or saying to not use the phone at all, again it's all about that "balance", of choosing in that moment to really enjoy and "be" instead of whipping out that phone and taking the picture. Try and do that balance of some moments documenting that special time they climbed up the monkey bars by themselves or swinging on the swing for the first time, but also keeping the phone and devices away in some other special moments and really get into the moment with your kids and say "way to go, you got up that climber all by yourself".
What makes Denmark the happiest country in the world--and how do Danish parents raise happy, confident, successful kids, year after year? Well this book "The danish way of parenting" explains 6 important components of parenting. Literally the book uses the word P-A-R-E-N-T as the key principles for happy children:
Play is essential for development and well-being. Authenticity fosters trust and an "inner compass." Reframing helps kids cope with setbacks and look on the bright side. Empathy allows us to act with kindness toward others. No ultimatums means no power struggles, lines in the sand, or resentment. Togetherness is a way to celebrate family time, on special occasions and every day. The Danes call this hygge--and it's a fun, cozy way to foster closeness. Preparing meals together, playing favorite games, and sharing other family traditions are all hygge. (Cell phones, bickering, and complaining are not!) With illuminating examples and simple yet powerful advice, The Danish Way of Parenting will help parents from all walks of life raise the happiest, most well-adjusted kids in the world.